Charity's Dating Advice
Dave and I have been together for five years. We are married. People
always assume that we are dating and say, "Wow, you dont LOOK married.
You look so happy and in love". On one hand, that sickens me.
Shouldn't a married couple be in love and show it? Mind you, we
don't do that obnoxious kissy-face-always-touching-each-other-calling-each-other-smoochy-hugglebunny-kitten-insert term of endearment -here- ...But, we also don't get snippy to each other, or bring up the other
concerns in our lives when out with other people.
:: How we do this ::
Respect. We are both adults, and we treat each other with that
knowledge. We don't talk down to each other like a lot of other
couples I have seen.
Dating. DONT GO OUT ON FRIDAY OR SATURDAY. It's stressful because
everyone else is trying SO hard to be "the cute couple" and I really
don't need that. I want to be able to go out in jeans and a sweater to
a nice resurant. On Friday they look at you crazy. On Tuesday they
assume "Hey its Tuesday be yourself". When we go out on Tuesday
night we generally get a non-stressed waitress, non-crowded movies,
poliet company, and best of all, less traffic on the roads. Also, it
breaks up the week and makes the mid-week drudge less drudgery.
Dont use sexuality as a means to a relationship. Dont have sex in the
heat of the moment unless you have the commmit of total heart. It's a
waste of emotional energy. No more worries about "what now" ...No more
worries about "what if he/she thinks". It's just a kiss.. thats cool.
The last thing I thought about was make sure you know the color
of your partner/dates eyes. It's a small thing, but when you notice
and you remember that color when you are alone--it feels
nice. Knowing that they have that little blue fleck or whatever means
you are looking at them deep into their eyes. We all know that
eyes are the window to the soul.
~ Charity ~
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